 Take a break. Binge-watch your favorite show.
I’m watching The West Wing…again. Aaahhhhh…if only. Thank you, Aaron Sorkin. My heart chakra feels better already. Happy Hanukkah! Janet
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 I Found Myself!!!
Yesterday we looked at how to recognize the unique energetic signatures that are NOT you. Today is all about getting to know your own. For Empaths, this is the key to discernment. Remember, you are clairsentient. That means intuitive information comes to you through sensations or feelings. If you cannot recognize your own energy, you leave yourself vulnerable to the influence of ‘Incoming!’ (M*A*S*H reference alert), or what is not you. (see Day 2) So, try this… Walk with awareness into the spaces that are uniquely your own. This may be your bedroom, office, car, or a space that you use consistently for meditation or prayer. These are the spaces that we imbue with our energy. See if you can feel the lingering energy of you. It’s easiest if you’ve been away for a while, even just for the day. Practice this daily and continue to sit with the peaceful vibe of your True Self. The more you become familiar with your own energy, the easier it will be to recognize ‘Incoming!’ and more importantly, what is not yours to react to. So handy!!! Stay sovereign, my friends! Janet  Your Energy Body holds the frequencies of your thoughts and your beliefs. You might say that your energy body holds your unique SIGNATURE…kinda like your haircut. How many of you have had the experience of sitting at your computer, someone enters the room beyond your vision, but you know who it is because…well, just because? If you are a parent, I would put money on the fact that if you were carried blindfolded into your child’s room, you would recognize their unique signature. You may say this is because of your sense of smell or hearing. Let’s face it, teenagers do something to a room that can only be described as an assault on the five senses, let alone the sixth. Practicing this will help you discern what, or who, you are feeling. Try it! Going to see family for the holidays? Walk in and notice how it feels. Can you recognize their energetic signature? How about your boss’s office? The Man-Cave? The She-Shed? The holidays are a great time to practice. Tomorrow I will share the 2nd part of this exercise! Stay tuned and Happy Solstice! Janet I Survived a Helluva Holiday Party!
I love parties…in theory. You get to dress up, see your friends or co-workers and dance the night away. If you are empathic, a party can also mean waaaay too much stimulation, which can crush your boundaries if you haven’t yet strengthened those energetic muscles. If you find yourself wondering why everyone else is having fun and you’re not feeling so pretty good, take heart. You’ve probably gotten yourself a bit muddled and puddled with everyone else. Remember the magical question 'Is This Mine' and notice what clears. If you’re still having trouble, hit the bathroom and run down the Day 5 list! One more thing…alcohol will make all of this more difficult. Anything that attenuates the consciousness will, by definition, make you less present. It’s hard to have boundaries when you’re not there to have them. Ruh Roh, now I’ve ruined all your fun!!! Another note on shopping…
Do you ever go shopping with a friend and come home with new clothes that would look fabulous—-on Them? Maybe it’s just an empathic-girl thing, but the day I came home with sailor striped clothing I knew something was amiss. BTW, anyone who knows me will find that last statement hilarious. Anyway, lesson learned. If I don’t have strong energetic boundaries in place, it is too easy to entrain to someone else’s energy and stumble into a fashion disaster. Now I make certain my energy field is prepped (See Days 1 and 5) before shopping with friends! Stay sovereign, my friends! 5 Golden Boundaries!
Having boundaries is Golden! I’m not talking about just the ‘saying No’ kind, although it is a happy day when you find your No, but also the energetic boundaries that keep you from getting muddled and puddled with everyone else’s thoughts and feelings. First, some energy anatomy. Your energy field consists of 7 layers. They are actually not layers like an onion, but they coexist in the same space, each one extending out past the last. For instance, the first layer usually extends out about an inch or so from the physical body. The second layer extends out a bit further, etc. They each have a different frequency, so think of them as each playing a different note in a symphony. Okay, here are the 5 fabulously Golden Boundaries! 1- Your Golden Egg. Sit. Stay. Close your eyes. Place your focus on the 7th layer of your energy field, which extends about as far as your outstretched arms. This layer is gold and it has a bit more of a structural quality to it. If you can’t see it easily in your mind’s eye, just imagine that you can. Fundamental Truth: What you recognize, solidifies. So, continually recognizing this outer layer will strengthen it. This is ESSENTIAL to creating a safe, clear energetic container for just you. Absolutely essential. Do this exercise every day, as often as possible. Soon it will become 2nd nature. 2- Clean your energetic container. Be present. With your intention, gently give back everyone’s energy you may have picked up along the way. You can do this with hand gestures, like you are scooping up their energy and offering it out to find its way back home. Then, focusing on your 7th layer, call back your energy that you may have scattered during your day. The 7th layer focus will keep your energy clean as it returns home. Do this exercise every evening, and after every interaction, phone call, client, student, workday, etc. 3- Carry earplugs with you everywhere! In the kitchen, the blender, food processor and coffee grinder can chip away at your bliss if you are overly sensitive. Going to the movies??? Superheroes? Planetary chaos? Wear earplugs. Grandmas TV on full blast? Wear earplugs. Italian family for Christmas? (oh wait, that’s me) Wear earplugs. I know I will! The little squishy, foamy ones are perfect! You’ll still hear everything. Really. 4- Wear amber blue-blocking glasses 2 hours before bed. These are amazing AND sexy! Actually, they are just amazing. Not sexy at all. Sorry. But they do help you have quality sleep by protecting you from the onslaught of blue light, especially from the “rectangles” everyone is addicted to. If the first thing you do in the morning is pick up your phone, have them close by and it won’t be quite so jarring. Enter the day as peacefully as possible. 5- Here it is! Say NO. Often. Don’t want to go…..? Don’t want to do …..? Don’t. Best self-care ever! I have a pact with my inner circle of friends. If any of us need to cancel in the name of self-care, even the day of, it’s okay. This is how we take care of ourselves and those we love. You will be surprised at how many things you really don’t need to do. Take an inventory and be honest with yourself…and others. Stay sovereign, my friends! Let it Go, Let it Go, Let it Go!
Dear Empathic Friends, Before you decide I’ve veered into the land of platitudes, hear me out. If you’re trying to ‘just let go’ of this crazy (fill in the blank) you’re feeling, and it doesn’t work, there is a strong possibility that it’s not yours!!! Ask yourself that critical question (Is This Mine?--see yesterday’s post) THEN, try letting it go. If you are still having trouble, ask yourself if you created some crazy story around what you are feeling. (See Day 2) More information in the Empathing days to come! Many people tell me they absorb the feelings of others. Actually, you’re not absorbing anything, just receiving information the unique way that you do. It’s your choice to match someone else’s emotional frequency, but I wouldn’t recommend it. The best way to have discernment when you’re feeling emotional, is to ask yourself often… “Is this mine?” If it isn’t, it will dissipate immediately. For reals. Try it.
Stay sovereign, my friends! Janet If you need me, I’ll be under the bed!
Oh dear, come on out… You’re safe now, just like the Peloton girl. Empaths are highly intuitive and receive their information by feeling it. For instance, someone sitting next to you in the theater is grieving the loss of a relationship…say it's the Peloton girl. You leave feeling like your world is coming to an end, but you’re not sure why, after all, you were just watching Christmas Vacation. The problem is simply because you don’t know where the feeling is coming from and you often interpret it as your own. Then your brain steps in to work its magic creating an elaborate story so this horrible feeling will make sense to you. Yikes. This story involves the person you are with who just said something that hurt your feelings…like, “Would you like to go get something to eat?” You burst into tears. I teach a process that helps you recognize “incoming” information before mayhem ensues. If you knew it wasn’t yours, you would simply say, “Oh, good information. The Peloton girl is sad, poor thing.” The feeling of grief would then leave you and you would go back to your happy-funny-movie afterglow and head to the restaurant! I’ll be sending out some tips in the days ahead, so stay tuned! Stay sovereign, my friends! Janet There is nothing more invigorating than being an Empath during the holidays! So many lights. So many parties. So many people. So, so many…
Perfect time to start a blog for my dear empathic friends. My intention is to help you find humor, and hopefully learn some skills to manage your Unique Superpower! On the 1st day of Empathing (yes, I made up the word—-don’t judge), I learned how to manage shopping. I’m not talking about online shopping, that’s easy, I’m talking about (queue the scary music) The Mall. Step 1: Have a plan. Write down exactly what you need to purchase and where to find it, then check out a map of the mall online before you leave the house so you can plan your attack. Make sure your route avoids the arcade and children’s pizza parlor…or for that matter, all children. Don’t get me wrong, I love children, but when you are empathic, children + the mall = an extra layer of…well, you know. Step 2: Eat a grounding breakfast that includes healthy protein. Pack grounding snacks…nuts are a great choice! Step 3: Breathe and ground. Remember, grounding is simply matching the relaxing frequency of the planet. This is the frequency that is nourishing and restorative. An easy way to ground is to think of your body as your favorite big comfy chair. Sit back and drop down. With every breath, sit back and drop down. After 5 or 10 minutes, you will be ready to get it done! Step 4: Be parked at the mall and ready to go 10 minutes before they open. Stay no longer than 2 hours. If you are not finished, try again another day. You can do this! Stay sovereign, my friends! Janet |
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